Depression built in me in the months you were missing. Your story was a reminder that I could have met the same end.
Joyce Hayden left her university teaching position to pursue writing and art endeavours. Since then, she has exhibited her paintings in a One Woman sh... ow and finished her memoir, The Out of Body Girl. Her website is joycehayden.com.
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